Discussion: Not a Love Triangle (06 August 21)

Posts like these piss me the hell off. It implies that Na Bi, me, and women in general are there to cater to men. That is not the point Nevertheless is making. It’s the opposite — it isn’t about what the men want or deserve, it’s about Na Bi and what she wants and deserves.


She deserves, first and foremost, to be happy. She deserves a love that she can give back, a love that is equal, a love that can help her grow. If that love comes from herself, all the better. She is NOT some property whose value lies on how men see her. Fuck that.


18.2K reactions and 4.8K shares of people seeing this show as nothing more than some dumb girl stuck between two boys, with one choice better than the other. Do some introspection and get out of your Team Edward and Team Jacob phase, people. God.


herlittledramas


This thread yes. Actually the discourse in fandom about how just because a guy is "nice" to you, doesn't mean he deserves you has been going on for years. I don't know why the tables have turned for this show. Is it so hard to tell that it's the same case? 


JE and NB both want each other, that's crucial. NB does not want DH, that's also crucial. That does not necessarily mean that JE and NB have to end up together. The show prioritises their individual growth journey. NB's above all. 


doramaticbites


We are so used to seeing love triangles, that we don't realize that this story is not about that, it's about Nabi and as she grows up as a character like the others. Jae-eon is also growing up, but mostly lacks how to express his feelings.


And Hyeok is a good person with good feelings, but Nabi doesn't like it. It's worse to date a person for whom she doesn't feel anything at all. No one is a worse or better person - they are simply imperfect people.


Think you're not the same person you were a few years ago and that's why as humans we evolve, we make mistakes like any other, we fix them and we learn from these mistakes. As Nabi's aunt said, her mother gave her that name so that her life would be as sweet as honey.


Life is not like that. The butterflies not only eat honey, they also eat insects and faeces because they are nutrients to them, which means that right now what is happening to Nabi are just things that have to happen for her to grow as a person.


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