Dohyuk Crossing the Line (07 August 21)

Those who kept on painting DH as a total hero should probably retract their statements now. 


DH has tendencies to cross the line when Nabi does not even give the slightest indication that she allows it, like, for instance, when he said in public that she is his first love.


He puts himself in between them in his desire NOT to protect Nabi but to protect his intentions of having her to himself. 


A telltale sign is because he does it without thinking if Nabi would be ok with it. I don't even think he noticed Nabi's discomfort when he confessed. But JE did.


Whereas every movement of JE towards Nabi is careful and calculated. 


Every move JE makes, he would either ask permission or we would see him prodding her with his eyes, checking if she will allow it. 


And he has done so since the very beginning.


The only time JE really ever did something that totally caught Nabi off guard was when he touched her hair when she was talking to DH on the phone. 


And he admitted he did it because he was jealous (not sure if it was the correct translation).


But JE did it because nothing else worked. 


He tried to talk, he sent her a gift, he changed his hairstyle in the hope that she would notice it and talk to him.


But Nabi didn't, so JE had to resort to the love language that he knew Nabi would respond to -- touch.


Forgot to point out that the fact that DH said this while looking at JE, not Nabi, actually says a lot.


Nabi already said "It's not like that." but he went ahead and said this when he saw JE's reaction. 


He did it not for Nabi but for his pride.


It is an understandable reaction from someone whose desires are being threatened by the presence of another person. And in the face of threat, DH failed to remember who should have been the more important person in the room -- the girl he is pining for, not himself.


And for those who were saying that Nabi was leading him on -- look at her reaction afterwards.


Nabi was, like I said before, oblivious and unaware of DH's feelings. There was no way for her to lead him on or reciprocate feelings that she did not even know existed.



mignonxminion in response to dream_no_24

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