Jaeeon’s Motivation and Sincerity (18 August 21)

Excellent thread on motivation. How NB, DH and JE all acted upon perceived threat, not just JE and how JE did not only ask to date NB due to that. To add, JE did try to clarify if NB/DH were dating and it's only after NB says no that he asks to date her.

This is consistent with how he has been since Ep 2, when he told her he would not kiss her if she didn't want to. And how he only looked for NB in Ep 3 after he knew for sure things between her and Eunhan were over.

JE checks, asks and lets NB decide whether to take the relationship where he proposes. By the way, I see people saying that NB was pressured into an fwb situation with him and he took advantage of her.

However, think back on Ep 3 and 4, she was happy he stayed, kissed him first, and afterwards he asked if he could see her again. She also asked to keep the relationship secret and he agreed. Not sure at which point she was pressured.

JE asking NB to date is also a natural progression. Ep 3-5 is when his feelings surfaced, Ep 6 is when he grappled with them, Ep 7-9 is when he tried repeatedly to convey them and then he asks her to date in Ep 9.

He also states why he wants to date her. He tells her he did not kiss her mistakenly like she presumed. He told her he liked being with her, liked her even when she's angry before asking her to date.

This is significant because though NB has shown in Ep 7 and 8 that she's cold to JE, she still wants him to contact her. This is JE showing that even if she's cold to him, he still likes her - that's actually in line with what NB quietly wants.

When he asks her to date him, again he gives her the choice and space to decide. Basically, his asking her to date was a long time coming. He did not ask her out to spite DH. 

All the while that he saw NB interact with DH, the main issue is NB neither accepted nor rejected his offer to date, putting him in a confusing limbo. Placed together with him not knowing where he stood in her life, the hurt compounded to a breaking point.

In the same way, he did not go to see her to control her. If he did, the question would be, what was he trying to control? Force her to stop talking to DH? No. Force her to get with him? No. So, what is it?

He was not NICE by the way, his words were hurtful, but it's precisely because this was an uncalculated outburst of emotion. It's self-sabotage that hurts him and NB, and he has to face the consequences as he fully realises "I lost NB for good."

Nevertheless has shown that JE isn't a perfect character, he had an unhealthy mindset and lifestyle he had to actively change, but it also showed that he was sincere in his feelings for NB. There are layers to his character, clearly evidenced in the narrative.

doramaticbites in response to mignonxminion


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