Nabi Doesn’t Try to Change Jaeeon (28 July 21)

Thread ini mewakilkan opiniku, menurutku ceritanya cukup realistis asal mau liat dr sisi lain jg ga cuma dr satu sisi doang. Setiap orang punya alasan knp dia begitu, tinggal kitanya mau memahami apa engga


Dan menurutku pelajarannya buat na bi bukan “km gabisa ngrubah seseorang” krn emg dr awal na bi ga berusaha buat ngrubah jaeon dia tau dr awal kl jaeon cuma mau fwban dan jaeon udh bilang dr awal, bahkan dia udh mutusin buat ninggalin jaeon tp jaeon yg ngejar lg


Trs knp jaeon msh deketin cewe lg pas galauin na bi? Ya wajar, justru lebih realistis krn dia berubahnya pelan2 dia sadar sendiri tanpa dipaksa na bi/orang lain. Dia lg memproses apaan nih perasaan w? Kok aneh dah? Kok gapernah dah ngerasain kaya gini? Coba cek ah, salah kali? Gt


Orang2 sll bilang dramanya mainstream kl jaeon jadian sama na bi trs berubah grgr na bi, pdhl kalo liat eps 6 kmrn ya jaeon ga berubah grgr na bi orang na bi ga ngapain2 dia lg healing diri sendiri. Jaeon jg nyari jawaban sendiri, na bi cuma ngetrigger jaeon tp ga ngerubah jaeon


Google Translation (may contain inaccuracies): 


This thread represents my opinion, I think the story is quite realistic as long as you want to see it from the other side and not only from one side. Everyone has a reason why he is like that, it's just that we want to understand whether or not


And I think the lesson for na bi is not "you can't change someone" because from the start, na bi didn't try to change jaeon, he knew from the start that jaeon only wanted fwban and jaeon already said from the start, even he decided to leave jaeon but jaeon was the one chase again


Then why is Jaeon still close to a girl when you're upset na bi? Yes, it's natural, it's more realistic because he changes slowly and he realizes himself without being forced to teach other people. What is he processing this feeling w? How is it weird? How come you never feel like this? Try to check ah, wrong time? Gt


People all say the drama is mainstream when Jaeon is the same as na bi and then changes grgr na bi, but if you watch eps 6 kmrn, jaeon doesn't change grgr na bi, what is he doing to heal himself. Jaeon is also looking for the answer himself, but it only triggers Jaeon but doesn't change Jaeon


devinurel in response to expensivegirll

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