Nabi Texting Parallels: Who She Really Wants (08 August 21)

Parallel from Ep6 and Ep8. Whenever NB is about to take the brave step of calling or reaching out to JE, DH is there to put a halt to it. And then she gets distracted until she finally loses the courage to talk to JE. Frustrating, I know, but there’s more to it.


It’s not because JE is so easily forgettable, or because NB is leading DH on. I think it’s because she’s scared — she’s absolutely terrified what it would mean if she reached out to him first. It’s not just a text or a phone call; it’s being vulnerable and open.


She’s petrified of looking pathetic, of feeling like she’s some loser going after a guy who doesn’t like her. That’s how much her groomer of an ex gaslighted her. So when a distraction, in the name of DH, comes along, she happily goes with it.


But the thing is, that’s all DH represents to her right now — a distraction. He gives her gifts and cooks her food and talks to her about his vlog. He’s easy to be with; simple and uncomplicated. But when he’s not around? It’s JE, JE, JE on her mind. 


And I think that’s where the majority of viewers get her wrong. They think she’s indecisive and wants both guys but she doesn’t, and never has, given any indication she has romantic interests in DH. I don’t know what’s not clicking, but it’s Park Jae Eon 24/7.


When she said it felt like cheating when he didn’t tell DH about JE, it was because she knows he has feelings for her. She can’t shut him out, he’s been such a good friend. But I love, love, love how this show doesn’t justify the good guy being the best choice.


Like I’ve been saying, this story isn’t about NB choosing between DH and JE. It’s about NB choosing between the “old” her and the “new” her; both of which always collide with each other. She’s so scared of repeating her past that she can’t clearly see her present.


We’ve been going through this will-she-won’t-he back and forth since the beginning. I still believe that the ultimate growth for them will be reserved for the finale. For better or worse, Yoo Na Bi will make that phone call. Let’s just hope Park Jae Eon answers.


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